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A Grateful Heart Makes Relationships Fonder

          Every year during Thanksgiving we have the tradition of thinking of things we are grateful for. Some people seem to be blessed with so much and have many reasons to be grateful, but others may find few things to be grateful for.  People often think of the big things that they are grateful for like a new promotion, a newborn baby, marrying the love of your life, or going on a vacation they've always dreamed of. These are definitely things to be grateful for but what about the many things that we do receive that are seemingly insignificant which we often take for granted?  Here is my list of things I have not shared before that I am grateful for. 

  •     My husband’s ability to forgive me when I keep doing things that irritate him
  •     My children’s patience when I nag them after saying I wouldn’t do it
  •     The people who don’t usually come to see me but showed up to pray for me when I was bedridden
  •     My sister-in-laws’ delicious food, gifts, and friendships
  •     Those who thought of me and sent me a texts, email, Facebook shout-outs, likes, birthday cards and holiday cards
  •     My mechanic brothers who saved me a ton of time and money
  •     Nephews and nieces who are so polite, kind, and respectful
  •     Those who thought of me and packed me food from an event I was not able to attend
  •     My mother-in-law’s thoughtfulness in packing me treats from special events
  •     My father-in-law who never fails to give my kids a lift when I am not able
  •     My mom’s fish she caught and special bread that she makes
  •     My brother-in-laws’ care and friendship with my teenage boys
  •     My pastor’s optimism that is contagious
  •     Mienh class students and children’s choir who bring me joy
  •     Those at my church who bless me through their gratitude and words of encouragement
  •     Support and encouragements from my colleagues/friends


          What about your list? These things may seem unimportant but they are like webs that bind relationships together to make them strong and lasting. The things of this world get old, break, and get tossed out, but memories of loving kindness in your relationships will not be forgotten. Remember that people may forget what you say but they will always remember how you made them feel.

          Gratitude is great medicine for mental health and interpersonal relationships. This Thanksgiving, take time to thank those who have blessed you. Although it may seem insignificant to them, it was important to you; so bless them by expressing your gratitude for how they have made a difference in your life.

  Happy Thanksgiving!!



Should I go get counseling?

Going to see a therapist is just going to talk to a professional who will be objective and help you see how your current thoughts and behaviors might be keeping you stuck. Although I am a trained Bowen Family Systems Therapist, I find myself drawing principles from Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) framework to help my clients. My clients find that CBT is easy to use in resolving their problems. CBT in Mey's terms is learning how one's thinking affects one's  emotions and therefore determine one's behavior and then learning how you can change your thoughts so that you can change your emotional state and behavior. Our thinking changes our attitude and it can change our reality. Talking to a therapist can help you change yours. I have never posted something I've seen on social media, but the below post explains how our thoughts affect us. Read to the bottom and then from the bottom back up. Enjoy!


Anxiety Group Workshop

Are you or your loved one suffering from Anxiety and panic attacks? Then this group will be very helpful. Learn those skills that I provide for my clients in private practice at a discounted price!




Am I Harming My Child?

Do you have agreements with your chidlren and they fail to follow through? What do you do? Should you follow through with the agreed upon negative consequences for their behavior? Should you be the mean parent your child calls you or spare them from the consequences and make them happy? Click on Am I harming My Child and find out why letting your child experience negative consequences and feelings may be good for them.


Parent-Child Madness 

Being a parent has its ups and downs at each developmental stage. But all parents would agree that adolescence is the most challenging stage. Kids think parents have all the power, but parents admittedly feel pretty powerless at times. Click on Parent-Child Madness to find out what one mother had to do to get her teenagers to school and keep her sanity.